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June 18th, 2012 
FAKE NEWS for the Zionist agenda
By
Leon Watson
09:08 EST, 17 June 2012
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01:47 EST, 18 June 2012
When the little angels can do no wrong it’s always a shock to hear a contrary view.
Which might explain why one in three mothers have fallen out with someone over how to raise their child.
Potty training is the most frequent cause of rows with behaviour, growth and a child’s eating and sleeping habits other touchy subjects.
According to a study, almost a quarter of mothers have argued with someone to the extent that they are no longer talking.
Key remarks that can trigger a row include ‘Aren’t they tall / short’ and ‘When my child was that age, they were already walking/talking’.
Other mothers have been criticised for giving their child a dummy and been questioned about whether their children are eating properly.
Psychologists say it can be difficult for parents to hear comments about their child’s development.
Not only does it raise concerns there might be something wrong, it could also imply the mother isn’t doing a good enough job.
Emma Kenny, spokesman for Pull-Ups, the potty training experts who commissioned the study, said: ‘It’s important to remember that all youngsters develop at different speeds.
‘For example, when it comes to potty training some children can be dry during the day at the age of two when others can be closer to four.’
As well as highlighting fall-outs, the study of 2,000 mothers also revealed mother-in-laws were the most common culprits for dishing out unwanted advice.
While some mothers said they were able to take the comments on the chin, one third admitted they got defensive whenever someone asked something about their child’s development.
One in three mothers has fallen out with someone amid a bust-up over how to raise her child – with their own mums or mother-in-law the main culprits, researchers have found.
Mother-in-laws are the main culprits when it comes to mothers having a bust-ups over how to raise their child
Ms Kenny added: ‘For many mums it can be difficult to hear comments about how their child isn’t doing something by a certain age, or isn’t behaving in a certain way.
‘Not only does it raise concerns that there might be something wrong, but it could also indirectly criticise the mother by implying that she isn’t doing a good enough job.
‘Many of the comments will often come from other people comparing the child to their own, or someone else’s, but it’s important to remember than all youngsters develop at different speeds.
The study surveyed 2,000 mothers and found comments or remarks made by close relatives, other mothers and even complete strangers are also common triggers
Some mothers have been told their
child should be talking more than they were, criticised for giving them a
dummy and questioned about whether their child was eating properly.
As
well as highlighting the actual fall outs mothers are having, the study
also revealed mother-in-laws are the most common culprits for dishing
out unwanted advice.
While
some mums said they were able to take the comments on the chin, one
third admitted they get very defensive whenever someone says something
about their child’s development.
Over
half of them (56 per cent) were left feeling down and upset by the
remarks and some felt so troubled that they ended up speaking to a
doctor or health visitor.
Emma
Kenny added: ‘When the time is right to start potty training, the key
for parents is to be patient, to encourage their child and offer lots of
praise and support.
‘Parents shouldn’t worry about off-the-cuff remarks as what is normal for one child might be completely different for another.’
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Other mums are the worst! I was at a play group a few weeks ago and my 4 mth old son was happily holding his weight whilst I held onto his hands (nothing wow there), and another mum commented on how much they develop in such a short space as her baby was only 10 weeks old and couldn’t bare any weight. Another mum grabbed her child pulled him to his feet and said well look my baby can do it and he is only 12 weeks and has been doing it for 4 weeks already! Made the other mum feel her child wasn’t up to scratch and made me think you divvy! No competition is of interest to me, and to be quite honest, I will congratulate and be happy for any parent when a child is meeting their milestones etc, but the only child that excites me beyond belief is my own.
My advice is…. Don’t listen to anyone else, eventually you will get there with your babe. They are all unique and find their own way!
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I should be so lucky as to have in-laws who want to be involved. My children are now 12 and 13 and my very well-heeled in-laws, who live just 15 miles away, have never once offered to babysit, never given my children a birthday or christmas present and never pressed so much as 50p into the palm of their hands. I think I’d prefer a bit of well-intentioned criticism over the total apathy I’ve received over the past decade or more :0(
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At two months old my son had some spots and the treatment was a blue lotion which left the spots a gorgeous shade of prussian blue, the healthy skin being only sky-blue. It was hilarious to see what I called the “pram divers” – the people who “dive” into any passing pram to inspect and pass comment on the baby – recoil in horror at the small smiling smurf.
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I only took my mothers advice which was “never listen to un-asked for advice”!
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” Health Visitors and GPS are just as bad by commenting on a child’s development and having unnecessary tests and referrals and the only thing they achieve is anxious mothers who feel guilty.- Lainey, isle if Wight, 17/6/2012 23:49. Lainey its not “the only thing they achieve” by monitoring childrens developmental progress, as health professionals its their job to do these checks!! About 20%, 1 in 5 of children in schools need some level of special attention to help them with their education and they need to be indentified for help.Developmental delays are early indicators that a child not reaching these markers may be a child who needs some help in the future. Its not about making YOU feel guilty as a mum, its about doing the best for your child if s/he has developmental delays.
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What’s wrong with being tall? I don’t get it?
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Some parents are unfit to be parents; unfortunately, working genitalia is not linked to this lack of capability. I know a couple who allow their child to determine when she wants to sleep, to take food off their plate or she screams the house down and also to keep her dummie – she is 4. Of course, they are much better at claiming benefits than they are at being parents.
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Slow news day?
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Lol..happens almost everyday with me…my mother in law n all..they keep on sayin how my son looks like a 7month old baby than a 11 month old baby.
N indirect comparison with my niece about weight. Whereas my GP said my baby is excellent at his age…my in laws tend to judge him only by his weight.
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Can someone please explain to me why “aren’t they tall” is critical to say? I don’t understand why it’s offensive.
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