10% US Women Have Borderline Personality Disorder

 

July 10, 2012

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(left.  RFK Jr. his late wife Mary)

 85% of people suffering from BPD are women and officially account for 4 to 6% of the United States’ population. Doing the math. Somewhere between 8.7% and 13% of women in the U.S. are afflicted with this grave condition.

(The author suffers from BPD via his wife. Having lived through it, I can tell you that the end result is a
battered, beaten shadow of a man who, at his lowest, believes every
harsh thing she says about him, has lost complete control over his own
possessions and even his own life, and feels isolated and trapped.
)

by Zach

MARYK.jpegAccording to his affidavit:

Personality disorders, in general,  are deeply ingrained, learned behaviors and mindsets formed during childhood that result in the individual ceasing to
mature emotionally. 

The sufferer has an
extremely narrow black-and-white worldview that causes them to be
unduly agitated and aggressive.

Personality
disorders are contrasted against the more commonly known Affective
Disorders (e.g., Bipolar and Depression) in that PDs are mostly learned
behaviors and mindsets, whereas Affective Disorders stem more from
biological malfunctions and shortages of hormones.

MK.jpegPeople afflicted with BPD typically have an emotional maturity level somewhere between that of a 3- and 6- year-old. They tend to

  • not be able to settle conflicts (instead raging),
  • cannot emotionally handle  information conflicting to their beliefs of reality (instead growing immediately and intensely angry), 
  • have a weak handle on reality at times (forgetting past abuse, having warped views of situations, etc.),
  • and have the inability to hold two opposing views and finding a
    synthetic balance.  Someone or something is either all good, or, in the
    words of Mary Kennedy, “the Devil incarnate”. This is the psychological
    process called Splitting

HUSBANDS

One of the saddest aspects of the BPD pattern is that most husbands of BPD’s are honest,
God-fearing, highly empathetic and otherwise powerful men.

Frankly, no
one else could or would put up with their abuse or have faith that
they’d get better. Because highly functional BPD’s can control themselves
in front of outsiders, many go months,
even years, without showing symptoms. By that point, the unsuspecting man
frequently finds himself married and with several children (There is a
pattern where Borderline women desire numerous children, as a sort of
Narcissistic Supply and enmeshment of husbands [see the movie on Joan
Crawford, Mommie Dearest (1981)])
.

These men then feel like they committed to the relationship for better or
for worse, and doggedly stick to their convictions, even while it
destroys their manhood and their children. Then a series of systematic
abuse, isolation from friends and family, and an invasion of their
personal boundaries occurs that leaves the partner in a state of
psychological shock and blackmail termed “enmeshment”

SOCIAL ENGINEERING?

Now doesn’t all of this sound like those beaten down,
eggshell-walking men mocked in the commercials? It is my contention that
BPD may be part of a larger sociological engineering campaign,
manufactured in tandem and exacerbated by the Feminist movement. One
casually overlooked (and occluded) fact is that BPD is a purely Western phenomenon:

 

[Some
nights,] she would threaten suicide, but the next morning she would be
calm and gentle. She would say she was sorry and didn’t know why she was
acting this way. For a time she would be her old wonderful self at
night as well as during the day, and Bobby had renewed hope, the
affidavit said.

Far from “driving his wife to suicide”, it appears that Robert
Kennedy, Jr., was just doing what he could to keep his family intact,
rushing to rescue his wife whenever she fell, putting up with loads of
abuse, and covering up for her. 

He was (and probably still is), in
short, a misguided man suffering from White Knight SyndromeHis kids had to watch this and years later — confided
in him that they, too, were being abused. That he didn’t know shows the extent of his denial.

To learn more about BPD, I’d recommend the following books in the following order:

  1. One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With BPD And Finding A Healthy You,
  2. The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder
  3. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has BPD

If, after careful reflection, you’ve decided you want out, tread very carefully. The mere threat of breakups always exacerbates the mental instability and psychosis of the Borderline
to the point that if you do not carefully plan,
you could be putting yourself and your family in harm’s way.

Go Away! I Need You! is one of the best how-to guides on everything you must do for weeks up until your escape.

For more reading material, please see:

The Siren’s Dance: My Marriage to a Borderline: A Case Study

Comments for “10% US Women Have Borderline Personality Disorder “

Al Thompson said (July 10, 2012):

When a woman gets angry, most of them don’t know how to control it and they don’t realize just how damaging their words are to whoever is on the receiving end. I can still remember them 30 years later, and I certainly wouldn’t ever want to go through that experience again. Psychology won’t help as it is scientifically deficient in almost every way; self-control will get the job done.

http://verydumbgovernment.blogspot.com/2012/03/defeating-evil-suppressing-anger.html

I highly recommend that your readers go to the link above and read the short article I have written. But most importantly, that they read Mandate #5 from an early Christian writing called the Shepherd of Hermes. I also recommend an early Christian writer called Tertullian. I have put links to those two articles in my essay. This is an excellent article on how to avoid anger and recognizing that when anger starts up in a person, it should be treated just like any other temptation. Knowing that murder is against God’s commandments, and anger is the beginning of it, it only makes sense to learn how to control it. I think the Shepherd of Hermes gets the job done. And I think that if my wife and I knew the dynamics of this destructive emotion, I may have been able to save my marriage.


Derek said (July 10, 2012):

This is absolutely %100 percent true I’ve lived through it myself prior to getting married. It is also, almost impossible to imagine how an adult male or female can have “The maturity level of a 3 – 6 year old” until you’ve expereinced it for yourself, a weak handle on reality is an understatement. It seems more like insanity. or as I used to tell her “life with you is like walking on eggshells in a glass house”

I luckily followed my gut instincts and pushed for an end to the relationship (we were engaged) It was heart breaking and took me years to figure out what had happened, why and most importantly rebuild my sense of masculinity.

This article describes to a tee (minus the suicide) what I lived though….Wish I had these links and resources 4 years ago. but thanks 🙂


Henry Makow is the author of A Long Way to go for a Date. He received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto. He welcomes your feedback and ideas at

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