Need guidance, please help

Firstly my heart goes out to all who have lost their little ones due to no fault of their own,I send you my strength to help you to get through the nightmare you live.
I am a grandparent whose brain is in complete turmoil, I cannot seem to break down the events that have unfolded.
Nine years ago this nightmare started for my daughter inlaw when her mother started making notifications to Fsa when her first baby was only 7 months old, these notifications came thick and fast about her own daughters abilities as a parent, when the second baby was born the notifications by the maternal grandmother increase ten fold until the little ones were removed from my daughter inlaw care and into the cre of the grandmother. As usual, nothing was investigated or proven to be correct in relation to the notifications . My daughter inlaw was in a hostile relationship and wanted to get out, she asked for help from her parents in doing this prior to the removal, as requested her parents went to “help” by taking the kids for a few daysto make it easier for her to leave. 18 months later, my daughter inlaw finally got them back, her parents used everything plus lies to get temporary custody. After reunification, the calls to FSA started again. By this stage she had met my son and. Became pregnant, things got even more horrible, they didn’t like my son so the calls to FSA became about him , my daughter in-laws sister is a detective here in S.A, she did illegal background checks and found that my son had been charged and con cited of assault when he was 17. This then provided them a base for more and more lies until the children were once again put bck in the cre of the maternal grandparents, the baby was 5 months old. Their “big break” came when after child care on day my daughter inlw noticed that the baby would not bare weight on his left leg, he didn’t appear to be overly distressed but it was clear there was discomfort, they took him to the hospital to have him checked that same evening, xrays were taken and the doctors concluded that it as merely pain associated with growing and possibly a slight strain. Satisfied they returned home. The following day they received a call from the hospital asking them to come back, they did so immediately. They were then told they had wrongly assessed the baby and infact he fractures in both legs consistentwith a twisting injury. They were asked to explain how this happened, the only thing they could think was maybe at childcare the day before something may have happened accidently. This was not a satisfactory answer, fsa were called and they seperated my son and daughter inlaw from all three children for a “chat”, my daughter inlaw, having read the signs said, no, u will take my kids, they promised that they only wanted to talk and its best done away from the kids, WRONG, two more workers came and took the kids, screaming out for mum. Since then, now 2years ago, they have not got them back, they had another baby just over 12mths ago, tea took him out of her cre when he was 12hours old. They have been fighting her parents in court and fsa. FSA have deemed my son as having borderline personality disorder and they have been told that if they stay together she will never get the kids back because they conclude that my son hurt the baby because of the assault charge when he was 17. No investigation has been done into the childcare centre, no actual facts are looked at, a police check nor a psychological report has mot even been conducted for the maternal grandparents. They have given false statements, placed drug paraphernalia and taken photographs, the list goes on. I know in my heart of beets that neither my son nor daughter inlaw hurt my grandson, I would be the first to do something about it if they had, I will admit they both need guidance and to be taught some life skills ie: budgeting, organisational skills and they did argue a fair bit, and they got worse as the pressure from her parents and fsa and being told that they were no good and my son told on many occasions that he was nothing but a looser, but this does not warrant having the children taken and molding those precious days, weeks months now years. The kids were always clean and fed, had the best of everything, (which was one of the issues with budgeting), because the over shopping and gifts to the kids made them run short for rent and bills. This were their only “crimes”. I helped as much as possible and explained the importance of not arguing with the children around, and basically offered support no matter what. Now still fighting her parents and FSA, the mention of an 18 year order for the baby is lurking. We need help someone please, I’m even refused visits to my grandbabies, I watched them come into the world, I ove them so deeply and cannot see them, I have only seen my youngest grandbaby at his birth and one other time in 13 months, I can only imagine the pain of my son and daughter inlaw as mine is almost to hard to bare.

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